Comments on: Blog 10: Calendar Daze

By: Fay

Fay — Sat, 04 May 2013 13:49:11 +0000

At first, Sonia, you could reason with Bill and explain to him that there were inaccuracies in his thinking. In those days, I think he understood that something was going terribly wrong and he worked with me to try to straighten it out.
Later, though, it happened that, if you tried to correct Bill’s thinking, he would argue the point with you, completely convinced that there was nothing awry with his thought processes at all and that all those around him had better go outside and look for their brains. That would have been six years into the dementia. In those days, he mostly didn’t know that there was anything wrong. I say “mostly” because there were odd occasions, which I talk about in another blog, when he knew.

By: Harold and Nola

Harold and Nola — Sat, 16 Mar 2013 22:04:07 +0000

And wasn’t Bill so fortunate to have such a clever partner!
That calendar business is almost surreal. would we have been so clever?
We think not – but this particular account will most definitely help others . . .

By: Sonia Hendy

Sonia Hendy — Mon, 04 Feb 2013 03:24:42 +0000

Was Bill able to recoognize this loss and talk to you about it? I often wonder how frightened he must have been, particularly if he realized how much he had actually lost.

By: Fay

Fay — Mon, 21 Jan 2013 04:52:17 +0000

Hello Lesley,
I’m so pleased that you are following the blog. I value your input greatly because of your scientific background and I find it gratifying to know that you see the account as being true to the documented nature of vascular dementia. Fay

By: Fay

Fay — Mon, 21 Jan 2013 04:46:47 +0000

Thank you, Nancy,
You could have written a book yourself. But this is a great way of remembering Bill almost a year after his death.
Happy New Year, Fay

By: Fay

Fay — Mon, 21 Jan 2013 04:43:52 +0000

Dear Heather,
Thank you for commenting. And you’ve reminded me that we probably all know someone who has suffered TIAs (small strokes). Often they don’t result in dementia. Here’s hoping this is the case with your cousin. Fay

By: Fay

Fay — Mon, 07 Jan 2013 10:40:32 +0000

Hello Nancy,
Thank you for your comments. I know that you only ever had warmth in your heart for Bill and I and that you’ve been on a similar journey yourself and I’m very glad that you are reading his story.
Kind thoughts,
Fay

By: Les Milne

Les Milne — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 08:54:54 +0000

It is so frustrating to watch dementia – seeing the person fade in front of you and being powerless to prevent the slide. Your description of the descent is so accurate!
Please don’t forget to write about the toll it extracted from you as the carer, Fay. We can read between the lines that you fought hard and long beside Bill, but we can also see that you were robbed of much of the joy of your retirement after many years of hard work.

By: Mrs Nancy Lindsay

Mrs Nancy Lindsay — Sun, 30 Dec 2012 11:14:08 +0000

I am sure that these blogs will be of immense help to anyone who is caring for a person who is facing the same problems as you and Bill faced. Thank you for keeping the diaries and writing this. One is never sure when it will be needed in future days. I look forward to reading more from you, Fay.

By: Heather Dench

Heather Dench — Wed, 19 Dec 2012 07:28:23 +0000

After reading all your blogs, I find I have a better insight into the fears and trials of people suffering with dementia and stroke. My cousin has had several small strokes which have left her with memory problems. She says everything twice to make sure you understand her, even though it isn’t always clear as to what she is referring.